Communication is an important part of any relationship. Many of us are to share our experiences or emotions with our friends. But when it's our turn to lend a(n) ,we soon become bored or are short of idea on how to _ and offer advice.
That's because of what researchers call "listener burnout（倦怠）”．A friend might talk to us ,often complaining about the same problems. When we offer quick advice to the situation, we may be unconsciously trying to 0urselves from bumout. However, good listeners their natural tendency to solve the other's problems hurriedly and to keep the conversation brief.
To be a good__ ，you need to use "active listening". It starts with the real _ to help others and think through their feelings. Don't things. You can start by putting your phone__ and sitting close to your friend. Let your facial expressions 一what he or she is saying.__ you are able to fully understand,acknowledge the other person's by reflecting them back:"That must be really hard for you.”Use words or even sounds such as“yes”， "right”,and"hmm"”to the other person to continue.
0f course,a. can be extremely hard if the other person is too critical.But don't get defensive. Effective listeners don't negative criticism.Instead,they listen and understand what the person ls trying to convey responding.
A．afraid B．hesitant C．shy D．eager
A．shoulder B．hand C．ear D．eye
A．respond B．explain C．argue D．quit
A．aimlessly B．endlessly C．deliberately D．cautiously
A．difficult B．old C．acute D．sensitive
A．fix B．discuss C．create D．describe
A．forgive B．protect C．discourage D．prevent
A．follow B．display C．form D．overcome
A．reader B．partner C．listener D．speaker
A．demand B．habit C．desire D．ability
A．skip B．rush C．overlook D．postpone
A．away B．off C．out D．up
A．record B．restrict C．reflect D．replace
A．Whether B．Since C．While D．If
A．suggestions B．purposes C．responses D．feelings
A．big B．tough C．strong D．shone
A．force B．remind C．encourage D．convince
A．conversation B．suggestion C．problem D．lecture
A．give up B．make up C．leave out D．block out
A．after B．before C．while D．once
“Everything happens for the best,” my mother said whenever I 36 disappointment. “If you can carry on, one day something 37 will happen. And you’ll realize that it wouldn’t have happened if not for that 38 disappointment.”
Mother was right, 39 I discovered after graduating from college in 1932. I had decided to 40 a job in radio, then work my way up to sports 41 . I hitchhiked（搭便车） to Chicago and 42 on the door of every station—and got turned 43 every time.
In one studio, a kind lady told me that big stations couldn’t risk hiring an 44 person –“Go out in the sticks（偏远地区） and find a small station that will give you a 45 ,” she said.
I thumbed home to Dixon, Illinois. 46 there was no radio—announcing job in Dixon, my father said Montgomery Ward had opened a store and wanted a local athlete to 47 its sports department. Since Dixon was where I had played high school football. I 48 . The job 49 just right for me. But I wasn’t hired.
My disappointment must have 50 . “Everything happens for the best,” Mom 51 me. Dad offered me the car to job hunt. I tried WOC Radio in Davenport, Iowa. The program director, a wonderful Scotsman named Peter MacArthur, told me they had already hired an announcer.
As I left his office, my frustration 52 . I asked aloud, “How can a fellow get to be a sport announcer if he can’t get a job in a radio station?”
I was waiting for the elevator 53 I heard MacAethur calling, “What was that you said about sports? Do you know anything about football?” Then he asked me to stand before a microphone and to broadcast a (an) 54 game.
On my way home, once again I thought of my mother’s words. I often wonder what 55 my life might have taken if I’d gotten the job at Montgomery Ward.
A．faced B．received C．considered D．met
A．useful B．helpful C．available D．good
A．old B．previous C．original D．early
A．when B．as C．that D．while
A．try out B．try on C．try for D．try over
A．player B．announcer C．manager D．fan
A．knocked B．arrived C．approached D．hunted
A．out B．off C．on D．down
A．unpracticed B．inpracticed C．inexperienced D．unexperienced
A．job B．suggestion C．chance D．advantage
A．When B．While C．Which D．So
A．work B．receive C．arrange D．design
A．accepted B．agreed C．applied D．promised
A．sounded B．became C．got D．grew
A．come B．shown C．disappeared D．brightened
A．recovered B．encouraged C．hugged D．reminded
A．boiled over B．turned over C．hit over D．took over
A．after B．as C．before D．when
A．forceful B．close C．imaginary D．ordinary
A．side B．action C．approach D．direction
As a young man, Al was a skilled artist．He had a wife and two fine sons．One night, his oldest son developed a serious stomachache．Thinking it was only some 11 intestinal （肠内的）disorder, neither Al nor his wife took the condition very seriously．But the boy 12 suddenly that night．
Knowing the death could have been 13 if he had only realized the seriousness of the situation, Al's emotional health became worse under the huge burden(重负) of his 14 .To make matters worse his wife 15 him a short time later, leaving him alone with his six-year-old younger son．The hurt and pain of the two 16 were more than Al could handle, and he 17 to alcohol(烈酒)．In time Al became an alcoholic.
18__ the alcoholism progressed, Al began to lose everything he 19 — his home, his land, his art objects, everything．20 Al died alone in a San Francisco motel room．
When I heard of Al's death, I thought that Al's life was a complete 21 ．
As time went by, I began to reconsider my earlier judgment．I knew Al's now 22 son, Ernie．He is one of the kindest, most caring, most loving men I have ever known．I watched Ernie with his children and saw the free 23 of love between them．I knew that kindness and caring had to come from somewhere．
I hadn't heard Ernie talk much about his 24__．One day I worked __25 my courage to ask him．"I'm really 26__ by something," I said．"I know your father was 27 _ the only one to raise you．What on earth did he do that you became such a special person?"
Ernie sat quietly and _28_ for a few moments．Then he said, "From my earliest _29 as a child until I left home at 18, Al came into my room every night, gave me a kiss and said, ' I love you, son．' "
Tears came to my eyes as I realized what a fool I had been to __30_ Al as a failure．He had not left any material possessions behind．But he had been a kind loving father, and he left behind one of the finest, most giving men I have ever known．
A．certain B．common C．rare D．basic
A．dead B．passed away C．starved D．worsened
A．cured B．prevented C．forbidden D．saved
A．disease B．debt C．guilt D．duty
A．left B．scolded C．quarreled D．forgave
A．disasters B．adventures C．conflicts D．situations
A．got B．drank C．turned D．sank
A．As B．Though C．Because D．If
A．needed B．shared C．benefited D．owned
A．Eventually B．Gradually C．Therefore D．Meanwhile
A．trouble B．hardship C．failure D．waste
A．teen B．adult C．old D．adolescent
A．win B．fall C．space D．flow
A．mother B．brother C．father D．child
A．up B．with C．on D．through
A．worried B．puzzled C．interested D．attracted
A．especially B．basically C．hardly D．specially
A．argued B．searched C．analyzed D．thought
A．thoughts B．ideas C．minds D．memories
A．treat B．call C．judge D．feel
I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our 36 , and especially if it’s given from the 37 . When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but 38 them. Just take them 39 . Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than 40 it.
One of my patients told me that when she 41 to tell her story, people often 42 to tell her that they had once had something just like that happen to her. Subtly her pain became a story about themselves. 43 she stopped talking to most people. It was just too 44 . We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the 45 of attention to ourselves. But when we listen, they know we care.
I have ever learned to 46 to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues(纸巾) 47 I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them 48 , to take them out of their 49 of sadness and pain. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there 50 them.
This 51 thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been 52 since I was very young at school. I thought people listened only because they were too 53 to speak or did not know the answer. A loving silence often has far more 54 to connect than the most well-intentioned 55 .
A．introduction B．instruction C．attention D．relaxation
A．head B．memory C．mind D．heart
A．talk to B．listen to C．object to D．stick to
A．in B．up C．off D．away
A．denying B．remembering C．questioning D．understanding
A．managed B．tried C．hoped D．expected
A．encouraged B．interrupted C．discouraged D．urged
A．Eventually B．Immediately C．Completely D．Especially
A．impolite B．meaningless C．lonely D．selfish
A．middle B．focus C．center D．choice
A．respond B．compare C．link D．regret
A．unless B．if C．until D．when
A．down B．away C．in D．off
A．experiment B．mixture C．judgment D．experience
A．with B．against C．for D．among
A．complex B．simple C．complicated D．single
A．mentioned B．published C．taught D．proved
A．shy B．greedy C．active D．proud
A．strength B．energy C．power D．force
A．gestures B．praise C．criticism D．words
In 1898 an 8.2 earthquake almost flattened America, killing over 30,ooo people in less than four minutes. In the middle of complete damage and disorder, a father rushed to the school where his son was supposed to be, 26 that the building was 2 7.
After the unforgettably shock, he 28 the promise he had made to his son: “ No matter 29 happens, I’ll always be there for you!” And tears began to 30 his eyes. As he looked at the pile of ruins, it looked hopeless, but he kept remembering his 31 to his son. He rushed there and started 32 the ruins.
As he was digging, other helpless parents arrived , 33 : “It’s too late ! They are all dead! 34 , face reality; there’s nothing you can do!” To each parent he responded with 35 : “Are you going to help me now? ”No one helped. And then he continued to dig for his son, stone by stone.
Courageously he went on alone because he needed to know 36 : “Is my boy 37 or he is dead?” He dug for eight hours … 12 hours…36 hours…then , in 38 hour , he pulled back a large stone and heard his son’s 39 . He screamed his son’s name, “ARMAND!” He heard back, “Dad!?! It’s me, Dad! I told other kids not to worry. I told them that if you were alive, you 40 me and 41 you saved me, they’d be saved. You promised, ‘No matter what happens, I’ll always be there for you!’ You did it, Dad!”
“What’s going on in there? ”the father asked
“There are 14 of us 42 43 33,Dad. We’re scared, hungry, thirsty and thankful you are here. When the building collapsed, it made 44 , and it saved us.”
“Come out , boy!”
“No, Dad! Let the other kids out first, 45 I know you’ll get me! No matter what happens, I know you’ll always be there for me!”
A．only discovering B．only to discover C．only realizing D．only to realize.
A．as flat as a pancake B．as high as a mountain C．as strong as an ox D．as weak as a kitten
A．memorized B．forgot C．kept D．remembered
A．what B．that C．which D．who
A．fill B．fill in C．come D．burst
A．picture B．promise C．present D．encourage
A．digging B．digging through C．digging out D．digging into
A．to say B．said C．and saying D．saying
A．Come out B．Come again C．Come on D．Come off
A．one word B．one sound C．one row D．one line
A．for himself B．of himself C．by himself D．to himself
A．live B．living C．alive D．lively
A．38 B．the 38
A．sound B．voice C．noise D．tone
A．if B．because C．even if D．though
A．remained B．missing C．left D．gone
A．for B．behind C．out of D．over
A．a promise B．space C．room D．a triangle
A．because B．though C．when D．even though
Most people in the world like to enjoy nature. Travel is one of the most popular ways. Nowadays modern transportation can take people everywhere. But people who lived before the 1880s probably would not travel very far. They would not have time to travel far from their work. Anyone who travelled 36 would usually walk or ride a horse. But in Germany a man named Karl Benz had an idea that 37 the world in a dramatic way. In 1885, he made 38 . His car had three wheels, 39 most cars today. The car could only go 40 16 kilometres an hour.
At around the same time, the man 41 his first car in Detroit, America is called Henry Ford. Detroit is now still famous all over the world as the centre of American car-making.
Cars were very few and only 42 people could buy them. 43 , in England cars were thought to be 44 at that time, so for a few years someone 45 walk in front of every car 46 a red flag! This was to make sure that the car did not go too fast and hurt 47 .
In the 1910s, Henry Ford had 48 a better kind of car called the Model T Ford and he built a 49 where the cars could be made 50 . In this way the car could be made 51 and the cost was less and more and more people could 52 them. But there was still a problem 53 all the cars were black. That was because it was 54 to produce cars that were all the same color. Now, of course, you can buy cars in all 55 .
A．by air B．by sea C．on foot D．on land
A．discovered B．found C．changed D．invented
A．a first car B．the first car C．his first wheel D．a first wheel
A．unlike B．like C．as if D．as
A．with a speed of B．at a speed of C．at speed of D．for a speed of
A．making B．made C．makes D．having made
A．busy B．rich C．strong D．kind
A．However B．But C．While D．Therefore
A．interesting B．unusual C．dangerous D．wonderful
A．wanted to B．was forced to C．must D．would
A．waved B．to wave C．waving D．wave
A．anyone B．someone C．everyone D．no one
A．sold B．discovered C．found D．produced
A．store B．market C．museum D．factory
A．with machine B．by machines C．by hand D．using hands
A．quickly B．slowly C．quitely D．quietly
A．lend B．sell C．buy D．watch
A．that B．/ C．which D．what
A．cheap B．more cheap C．cheaper D．much cheap
A．kinds B．shapes C．colors D．sizes
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