You may be surprised to see “making sure children never suffer” as a mistake. The following may help you understand how rescuing children from all suffering weakness.
A little boy felt sorry for a butterfly struggling to from its chrysalis. He decided to the butterfly. So he peeled the chrysalis open for the butterfly. The little boy was so to watch the butterfly spread its wings and fly off into the sky. Then he was horrified he watched the butterfly fall to the ground and die because it did not have the muscle to keep flying. In fact, the butterfly’s struggle to the chrysalis helps the butterfly become stronger.
Like the little boy, too often want to protect their children from struggle in the of love. They don’t realize that their children need to struggle, to experience , to deal with disappointment, and to solve their own problems. Only in this way can children their emotional strength, become and develop the skills necessary for the even bigger struggles they will meet throughout their lives. Children experiencing sufferings can the ups and downs of life.
However, it isn’t helpful either in this case when parents lectures(训斥), blame and shame to what the child is experiencing. Mothers to say, “Stop crying and acting like a spoiled boy. You can’t always get what you want.” These words should be avoided.
Instead, parents can offer loving support. You can say, “Don’t lose . Be brave! You will succeed if you try again.” Then comes the tough part—no a no lectures. Simply allow him to discover that he can get over his disappointment and what he can do to get what he wants in the future.
A．story B．proverb C．saying D．Experiment
A．damages B．burns C．creates D．experiences
A．hear B．suffer C．date D．emerge
A．kill B．feed C．help D．rescue
A．excited B．moved C．puzzled D．depressed
A．as B．since C．before D．until
A．power B．energy C．strength D．force
A．come up B．do away with C．get along with D．break away from with
A．teachers B．parents C．relatives D．friends
A．case B．charge C．name D．course
A．friendships B．scholarships C．relationships D．hardships
A．strengthen B．require C．get D．achieve
A．warm-hearted B．strong-willed C．absent-mind D．cold-blooded
A．expect B．predict C．survive D．avoid
A．add B．adapt C．devote D．contribute
A．pretend B．happen C．tend D．seem
A．discouraging B．inspiring C．interesting D．touching
A．heart B．face C．sight D．weight
A．parking B．smoking C．drinking D．rescuing
A．figure out B．carry out C．rule out D．drop out
In the doorway of my home, I looked closely at my 23-year-old son, Daniel. In a few hours he would be flying to France to a different life. It was a transitional (过渡的) time in Daniel's life. I wanted to him some words of significance. But nothing came from my lips, and this was not the time I had let such moments pass.
When Daniel was five, I took him to the bus stop on his first day of kindergarten. He asked, "What is it going to be like, Dad? Can I do it?" Then he walked the steps of the bus and disappeared inside. The bus drove away and I said nothing. A decade later, a similar played itself out. I drove him to college. As I started to leave, I tried to think of something to say to give him and confidence as he started this new stage of life. Again, words me.
Now, as I stood before him, I thought of those opportunities. How many times have I let such moments ？ I don't find a quiet moment to tell him what they have to me. Or what he might to face in the years ahead. Maybe I thought it was not necessary to say anything.
What does it matter in the course of a lifetime if a father never tells a son what he really thinks ofhim? as I stood before Daniel, I knew that it did matter. My father and I loved each other. Yet, I always never hearing him put his into words. Now I could feel my palms sweat and my throat tighten. Why is it so to tell a son something from the heart?
My mouth turned dry, and I knew I would be able to get out only a few words clearly. "Daniel," I said, "If I could have picked, I would have picked you." That's all I could say. He hugged me. For a moment, the world , and there were just Daniel and me. He was saying something, but tears misted my eyes, and I couldn't understand what he was saying. All I was of was the stubble (茬) on his chin as his face pressed mine. What I had said to Daniel was . It was nothing. And yet, it was .
A．experience B．spend C．enjoy D．shape
A．show B．give C．leave D．instruct
A．last B．first C．very D．next
A．upward B．into C．down D．up
A．sign B．scene C．scenery D．sight
A．interest B．instruction C．courage D．direction
A．failed B．discouraged C．struck D．troubled
A．future B．embarrassing C．obvious D．lost
A．last B．pass C．fly D．remain
A．counted B．meant C．valued D．eared
A．think B．want C．expect D．wish
A．But B．And C．Instead D．So
A．wondered B．regretted C．minded D．tried
A．views B．actions C．feelings D．attitudes
A．important B．essential C．hard D．complex
A．disappeared B．changed C．progressed D．advanced
A．sensitive B．convinced C．aware D．tired
A．by B．against C．on D．with
A．clumsy B．gentle C．absurd D．moving
A．none B．all C．anything D．Everything
My 9-year-old daughter and I were flying from our home in Carolina, to spend a week with my husband in Florida. We were about the trip because we hadn't seen him for five months, and she her Dad terribly. As usual on the Charlotte-toMiami flight, the plane was totally . Because we did not get our boarding passes until we at the gate, Kallie and I could not get seats together and were by the aisle (过道). I asked two passengers in my row if they would switch places with Kallie and me, we could be together. They , saying they thought they should stay in their assigned seats.
Meanwhile, a mother and her three children were in a several rows ahead of us. There had been a mistake in their boarding passes, and the whole family had been split up. The passengers in her row refused to move elsewhere. She was very about the younger boy sitting with strangers. She was in tears, yet nobody to help her.
There were a troop of Boy Scouts on Suddenly the Scout leader stood up and said, "Ma'am, I think we can help you." He then five minutes rearranging his group so that adequate space was for the family. The boys followed his directions cheerfully and without , and the mother's relief was obvious.
Kallie, however, was beginning to panic at the of not being next to me. I told her. that there wasn't anything I could do. , the man sitting next to the Scoutmaster, to me and asked, "Would you and your daughter like our seats?" to himself and the Scoutmaster. We traded seats and continued our trip, very much relieved to be together and watch the scenery from Kallie's window seat.
A．worried B．excited C．anxious D．eager
A．loved B．considered C．imagined D．missed
A．full B．crowded C．empty D．overweight
A．reached B．arrived C．landed D．knocked
A．divided B．blocked C．separated D．connected
A．in case B．even if C．as if D．so that
A．prevented B．refused C．agreed D．promised
A．panic B．hurry C．rush D．seat
A．however B．otherwise C．therefore D．instead
A．too B．even C．ever D．also
A．concerned B．curious C．particular D．content
A．suggested B．offered C．provided D．supplied
A．duty B．watch C．board D．spot
A．took B．cost C．paid D．spent
A．convenient B．available C．probable D．comfortable
A．permission B．excuse C．apology D．complaint
A．thought B．end C．feeling D．sense
A．Immediately B．Puzzlingly C．Suddenly D．Amazingly
A．turned back B．turned around C．turned out D．turned away
A．sticking B．keeping C．waving D．Referring
Once upon a time the colors of the world started to quarrel. Green said, "Clearly I am the most important. I am the sign of life and hope. I was chosen for grass, trees and leaves. Without me, all animals would ."
Blue interrupted, "You only think about the , but consider the sky and the sea. the water that is the basis of life and drawn up by the clouds from the deep sea. Without my peace, you would all be ."
Yellow chuckled (笑道), "You are all so serious. I bring laughter, fun, and into the world."
Orange started next to blow her trumpet, "I am the color of health and strength. I may be , but I am precious for I serve the needs of human life. When I fill the sky , my beauty is so striking that no one gives another （8） to any of you."
Red could stand it and he shouted out, "I am the ruler of all of you. I am the color of danger and of bravery. I am willing to truth. I am also the color of passion and of love."
Then came Purple and Indigo (深蓝) ……
The colors went on boasting, each convinced ofhis or her own . Their quarreling became louder and louder. Suddenly there was a startling flash of bright lightening thunder. Rain started to pour down . The colors crouched (蜷缩) down , drawing close to one another for comfort.
In the midst of the clamor (叫嚷), rain began to speak, "You foolish colors, fighting (14) yourselves, each trying to dominate . Don't you know that you were each made for a special purpose, ? Join hands with and come to me." Doing as they were told, the colors and joined hands. They formed a colorful rainbow. From then on, whenever a good rain the world, a rainbow appears in the sky. They remember to one another.
A．stay B．leave C．go out D．die
A．earth B．moon C．star D．sun
A．That is B．I am C．It is D．This is
A．anything B．nothing C．something D．everything
A．warmth B．sadness C．depression D．anxiety
A．usual B．normal C．common D．scarce
A．at midnight B．at noon or at night C．at sunrise or sunset D．during the day
A．gift B．honor C．thought D．respect
A．for more B．any more C．very much D．no longer
A．turn to B．fight for C．struggle with D．bend over
A．superiority B．disadvantages C．inferiority D．weakness
A．gently B．quietly C．violently D．peacefully
A．with care B．in fear C．by chance D．on purpose
A．amongst B．by C．for D．against
A．others B．themselves C．the other D．the rest
A．equal and simple B．ordinary and similar C．more or less D．unique and different
A．each other B．me C．one another D．them
A．combined B．separated C．united D．divided
A．cleans B．washes C．brightens D．dampens
A．appreciate B．quarrel with C．ignore D．Praise
When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one when my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely toast (吐司) in front of my dad. I remember to see if anyone noticed! all my dad did was reach for his toast, at my mom and ask me how my day was at school.
When I from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom to my dad for burning the toast. And I'll forget what he said, "Baby, I love burnt toast." Later that night, I went to dad good night and I asked him if he really his toast burnt. He wrapped me up in his and said, "Debbie, your mom had a day at work today and she's really tired. And besides, a little burnt toast never anyone! "In bed that night, I thought about the scene at dinner and the my dad showed to my mom.
To this day, it's a cherished (珍贵的) from my childhood that I'll never forget. And it's one that came to just recently when Jack and I sat down to eat dinner.
As I the plate in front of Jack, I waited for a (n) about the burnt toast. But all I got was, "Thank you, dear! This is . I know you had a hard day!" Just then, I thought about my parents, and was quietly thankful for having a where burnt toast wasn't a deal-breaker either!
A．noon B．afternoon C．morning D．night
A．expected B．burnt C．sweet D．delicious
A．being encouraged B．being allowed C．waiting D．refusing
A．Yet B．Although C．So D．Until
A．laugh B．smile C．shout D．stare
A．got up B．got back C．broke away D．put forward
A．report B．shout C．apologize D．complain
A．almost B．never C．often D．hardly
A．ask B．greet C．tell D．kiss
A．liked B．got C．cooked D．made
A．head B．heart C．arms D．hands
A．boring B．hard C．disappointing D．sad
A．hurts B．comforts C．invites D．hates
A．interest B．surprise C．kindness D．satisfaction
A．life B．mind C．an end D．a conclusion
A．set down B．took away C．finished up D．washed up
A．answer B．question C．comment D．suggestion
A．possible B．true C．terrible D．great
A．condition B．future C．situation D．Marriage
Eating the Cookie
One of my patients, a successful businessman, tells me that before his cancer he would become depressed unless things went a certain way. was "having the cookie". If you had the cookie, things were good. If you didn't have the cookie, life was .
Unfortunately, the cookie kept . Some of the time it was money, and sometimes power. At time, it was the new car, the biggest contract—A year and a half after his diagnosis of prostate (前列腺) cancer, he sits his head regretfully. "It seems that I stopped learning how to after I was a kid. When I give my son a cookie, he is happy.
If I take the cookie away or it , he is unhappy. But he is two and a half and I am forty three. It's taken me this long to understand that the will never make me happy for long.
The you have the cookie it starts to fall to pieces or you start to （10） about it crumbling (弄碎) or about someone trying to take it away from you. You know, you have to a lot of things to take care of the cookie, to keep it from crumbling and be that no one takes it away from you. You may not even get a chance to eat it you are so busy just trying not to lose it. the cookie is not what life is about. ”
My patient laughs and says has changed him. For the first time he is . No matter if his is doing well or not, no matter if he wins or loses at golf. "Two years ago, cancer me, ‘What is really important?’Well, life is important. Live any way you can have it, life with the cookie, life without the cookie. Happiness does not have anything to with the cookie: it has to do with being ."
A．Happiness B．Success C．Business D．Love
A．normal B．common C．worthless D．useless
A．increasing B．changing C．decreasing D．recovering
A．one B．a C．no D．other
A．shaking B．nodding C．knocking D．raising
A．grow B．learn C．live D．work
A．burns B．breaks C．shares D．throws
A．disease B．change C．kid D．cookie
A．hour B．time C．second D．minute
A．think B．come C．worry D．doubt
A．give up B．add up C．use up D．call up
A．brave B．curious C．aware D．sure
A．unless B．because C．though D．until
A．Eating B．Protecting C．Having D．Making
A．death B．energy C．life D．cancer
A．happy B．weak C．upset D．sad
A．result B．fortunate C．business D．behavior
A．deal B．do C．connect D．link
A．alone B．alive C．ambitious D．Active
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