Mark Twain said that “habit is habit, and not to be flung(扔) out the window by anyone, but coaxed (劝诱)downstairs a step at a time.” The chances of successfully changing negative behavior when you make gradual changes that give you time to negative patterns for positive ones.
On any given day, countless numbers of us get out of bed and to begin to change a given behavior “today.” Whether it be exercising more, drinking less, managing time or some other change in a negative behavior, we start out with high . In a short time, however, a vast majority of people fail and are soon doing it was they thought they shouldn't be doing.
After considerable research, some researchers believe that behavior changes usually do not if they start with the change itself. , they believe that we must a series of “stages” to adequately prepare ourselves for that change. Once you have analyzed all the factors that what you do, you must decide which behavior-change technique will work best for you.
According to the psychologist Albert Ellis, most problems and related behaviors arise from irrational (不理性的) statements that people make to when events in their lives are different from what they would like them to be. For example, suppose alter doing on an exam, you say to yourself, “I can't believe I failed that easy exam, I’m so stupid.” By changing this irrational “catastrophic” self-talk into rational, statements about what is really going on, you can increase the that positive behaviors will occur.
Positive self-talk might be as follows: “I really didn’t study enough for the exam. I just need to prepare for the next .”
Such self-talk will help you to recover quickly from and take positive steps to correct the situation. Some other technique like purposefully or stopping negative thoughts and refusing to dwell on(沉湎于) negative images can also spare you wasted energy, time and emotional resources and move on to positive changes.
A．decline B．remain C．disappear D．improve
A．substitute B．cancel C．find D．ignore
A．refuse B．determine C．hesitate D．advocate
A．more B．better C．worse D．less
A．values B．requirements C．expectations D．levels
A．whichever B．however C．wherever D．whatever
A．succeed B．fail C．exist D．fade
A．Nevertheless B．Otherwise C．Instead D．Moreover
A．look through B．break through C．go through D．pull through
A．initial B．temporary C．instant D．eventual
A．involve B．influence C．explain D．adjust
A．emotional B．physical C．technical D．professional
A．all B．others C．someone D．themselves
A．poorly B．carefully C．completely D．slowly
A．positive B．ridiculous C．negative D．explicit
A．danger B．awareness C．amount D．probability
A．written B．phrased C．listed D．captioned
A．research B．test C．talk D．problem
A．tiredness B．habits C．disappointment D．burdens
A．recalling B．starting C．blocking D．holding
It often appears that we have more to gain by speaking than by listening. One big advantage of speaking is that it gives you a chance to _____ others' thoughts and actions. Whatever your goal is — to have a boss hire you, to ____others to vote for the person of your choice or to describe the ____ you want your hair cut ...the key to success seems to be the ____ to speak well.
Another ____ advantage of speaking is the chance it provides to ____ the admiration, respect, or linking of others. Tell jokes, and everyone will think you're really a ____ man. Tell them all you know，and they'll be ____ by your wisdom. But keep quiet, and it seems as if you are a ____ person.
Finally，talking gives you the ___ to release(释放) energy in a way that listening can't. When you're ____, the chance to talk about your problems can often help you feel better. In the same way, you can often ___ your anger by letting it out orally. It is also helpful to ___your excitement with others by talking about it, ____ keeping it inside often leaves you feeling as if you might burst.
____ it is true that talking does have many advantages，it's important to ____ that listening can do good to listeners, too. As you'll soon read, being a good listener is one good way to __ others with their problems; and what better way is there to have others ____ you? As for controlling others, it may be true that it's hard to be persuasive while you're listening, but your ___ to hear others out will often make them open to your ideas ____. Listening is often reciprocal(互惠的). “You get what you give.”
A．guess B．control C．disturb D．tease
A．insist B．advise C．persuade D．suggest
A．idea B．plan C．means D．way
A．habit B．energy C．power D．ability
A．obvious B．easy C．new D．special
A．catch B．gain C．remain D．declare
A．successful B．simple C．wise D．stupid
A．affected B．moved C．instructed D．impressed
A．fruitless B．homeless C．worthless D．senseless
A．pleasure B．course C．opportunity D．duty
A．in trouble B．in danger C．in debt D．in silence
A．reduce B．extend C．deepen D．widen
A．control B．share C．enjoy D．remove
A．or B．so C．for D．though
A．s B．When C．Since D．While
A．suppose B．aware C．realize D．imagine
A．fail B．cure C．hurt D．help
A．appreciate B．listen to C．envy D．support
A．kindness B．favour C．willingness D．concern
A．by turns B．in return C．in turn D．in order
I went to India for a 2-week vacation to visit my relatives. We stopped on a red light, and as always, there were a lot of activities outside the cars near the . People walked in, between the cars newspaper, water and a number of kids looked for a bit of charity from the car owners. It’s a familiar in most poor developing countries.
While we were for the red light to turn green, I noticed a man outside a couple of in front of ours trying to sell bottles of water. It’s unusual at first. He was a man in his 40s with relatively clothes. But he walked around in a strange way. He kind of his way around the spaces. He was blind.
Carrying a couple of water bottles on one hand, he got to the outside of our car. Out of , my mum decided to buy one water bottle. As she gave the man the money, the light turned green. The car behind sounded loudly and , trying to get ahead of traffic. Seeing this, my mum kindly told the man to the change. However, with his sense of touch, he quickly went through his shirt pocket and threw the money at my mum’s . It was the exact change. The cars behind us were really getting out of control, we decided to go on our way.
I broke down and even when I got home. Here’s a blind man, born in , trying to sell water bottles on the streets to make ends meet. He our sympathy. Life hasn’t been to him, yet he’s giving it his best shot. I think that is what is all about facing life bravely.
A．signs B．crossroads C．stations D．theatres
A．giving B．buying C．selling D．throwing
A．scene B．play C．activity D．street
A．watching B．asking C．waiting D．changing
A．blocks B．crossings C．turns D．cars
A．everything B．something C．anything D．nothing
A．expensive B．fashionable C．ragged D．fastened
A．pushed B．drove C．cleared D．felt
A．eventually B．quickly C．frequently D．happily
A．curiosity B．sympathy C．thirsty D．politeness
A．impatiently B．casually C．naturally D．carefully
A．keep B．return C．borrow D．count
A．poor B．superior C．limited D．enlarged
A．hand B．arm C．face D．lap
A．still B．yet C．so D．but
A．smiled B．shouted C．complained D．cried
A．pain B．poverty C．sadness D．loneliness
A．refused B．enjoyed C．doubted D．cheated
A．rich B．unfair C．kind D．bad
A．kindness B．courage C．experience D．challenge
A _ _ thing happened __ _ me last Sunday. It was such a beautiful day __ _I drove to go for a look in the country.
On the way back home, my _ _ stopped. It was out of gas on a_ _ road far from a town! I decided to walk until I found someone_ _ could sell some gas. I had walked almost a mile __ _ I finally found a house near the __ _. I was glad to see it because it was getting dark.
I knocked at the door and a little old lady with long white hair __ __. She said, “I’ve been __ __ for you here for a long time. Come in. _ _is almost ready.”
“But I only came for some gas,” I answered. I couldn’t _ _ what she was talking about.
“Oh, Alfred! Gas? You_ _tea,” said she.
I quickly _ _that my car was out of_ _, but she didn’t seem to listen to me. She just kept _ _me Alfred and talking about how long it had been _ _she had seen me. She was acting very strangely and I was anxious to leave. As soon as she went to get tea, I went out of the house as fast as I_ _.
Fortunately, there was another house down the road and I was able to buy the gas I needed. When I told the man about my _ _, he said, “Oh, that’s Miss Emily. She lives by herself in that big house. She’s strange, but she wouldn’t_ _ anybody. She is still waiting for the man she was going to marry thirty years ago. The day before their wedding he left home and never came back because of the war.”
A．happy B．strange C．common D．bad
A．on B．in C．upon D．to
A．and B．so C．but D．that
A．car B．bus C．bike D．truck
A．narrow B．lonely C．crowded D．busy
A．what B．whom C．who D．how
A．before B．after C．while D．as
A．street B．path C．way D．road
A．came B．answered C．opened D．appeared
A．asking B．looking C．calling D．waiting
A．Gas B．Coffee C．Tea D．Lunch
A．consider B．understand C．accept D．think
A．like B．love C．used to like D．liking
A．answered B．explained C．refused D．promised
A．gas B．tea C．strength D．energy
A．calling B．call C．to call D．called
A．until B．before C．since D．when
A．could B．can C．would D．wanted
A．accident B．incident C．experience D．surprise
A．hit B．injury C．hurt D．frighten
My 8-year-old son, Kevin, has made friends with some boys in the neighborhood. He has been ____ with them after school. My wife, and I are ____ he has other kids to be with and we have ____ and encouraged him to play with his friends. We also want Kevin to learn ____, so we have asked him to tell us ___ he's going and to come home at a specified time.
The ____ started when Kevin didn't come home on time. On one occasion, I asked Kevin to be back at 6 pm. By 6:30, I needed to go ____ him. I found him at a friend's house, and he looked ____ that he couldn't continue playing. After we came home, I sat Kevin down for a talk about the ____ of keeping his word. I told him I was not worried about his arriving a few___ late, after a half hour, he told me he understood and I was ___.
The next day, I came home from work at about 6:30 pm and my wife asked me to go and get Kevin back ___ she said he should be back home at 6. I walked to his friend's house and a look of ___appeared on Kevin's face when he came to the door.
At __, my wife and I spoke to Kevin about why he didn't come home on time again. He said he just wanted to ___ playing. This was ___ so we decided to ground(罚不准出门) him for a week. This ___ no playing with his friends.
For the next week,whenever his friends came to ask for Kevin, we let him ___ to them that he was grounded. We felt this would help him be responsible for his ___.
As a ___ I believe one of the most important things we can teach our kids is self-responsibility and that actions have consequences.
A．studying B．playing C．chatting D．quarreling
A．glad B．lucky C．worried D．sure
A．made B．allowed C．trained D．forced
A．amusements B．communications C．honesty D．responsibility
A．when B．why C．where D．whenever
A．changes B．conflicts C．worries D．problems
A．looking for B．picking up C．waiting for D．calling up
A．angry B．nervous C．disappointed D．ashamed
A．quality B．importance C．stories D．ways
A．hours B．minutes C．days D．times
A．satisfied B．shocked C．surprised D．concerned
A．if B．unless C．because D．so
A．guilt B．disappointment C．excitement D．hatred
A．home B．school C．work D．office
A．finish B．keep C．learn D．stop
A．impossible B．impolite C．unacceptable D．unbelievable
A．meant B．suggested C．showed D．implied
A．reply B．apologize C．tell D．explain
A．decisions B．words C．actions D．friends
A．teacher B．parent C．writer D．professor
The famous British inventor George Stephenson was born in 1781 and died in 1848. One of his important inventions was the train. He his first train when he was forty-four years old. When he was experimenting with the engine on the train, he met with from the government, the newspapers and the gentlemen in the country. They said that the noise and the smoke would cows, horses and sheep, that the would burst or that the hot coals from it would their houses. At that time, people believed what they said.
George Stephenson the people that the train could go on small , could pull carriages goods and passengers and there was to them. It was a very matter for him to them believe. However, after , he was able to do it; and the first train that by Stephenson himself what he had said.
The first day the people along the way the noises of the train and saw it running quickly to them, they ran back home as quickly as they could and closed their doors tightly, for they thought it a genius(妖怪).They did not dare to come out until it had passed.
A．very B．a lot C．much D．most
A．bought B．made C．introduced D．did
A．electrical B．atomic C．oil D．steam
A．troubles B．success C．people D．pleasure
A．buy B．kill C．interest D．take away
A．smoke B．noise C．engine D．driver
A．pull down B．blow away C．pass D．set fire to
A．few B．most C．only a few D．the rich
A．said B．spoke C．warned D．told
A．roads B．rivers C．rails D．steam
A．full of B．short of C．empty of D．without
A．dangerous B．no great danger C．a lot of danger D．few danger
A．difficult B．easy C．pleasant D．light
A．get B．cause C．force D．make
A．some time B．sometime C．a few times D．sometimes
A．was driven B．was sold C．was pulled D．helped
A．believed B．seemed C．proved D．sensed
A．when B．of C．while D．for
A．caught sight of B．listened to C．thought D．heard
A．in the distance B．nearby C．on the far D．from the distance
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