Years ago, a Southern woman was in one of my workshops. When asked to tell a story that 36 her character (品质), she described an 37 when she was 5. She was at her grandfather’s house 38 up in a beautiful white skirt and new gloves , 39 as she could be.
Her grandfather told her she could go into the 40 and get herself a cookie. Next to the cookies was a pile of coins. Sure that no one was 41 , she took one of the coins, too.
When she 42 with her cookie, her grandfather asked her to show him her 43 . She held out only her left hand 44 , and he said, “Show me the other hand.” When she unwillingly did 45 , showing the coin, she saw 46 in her grandfather’s eyes.
He paused a moment and then 47 her up, saying, “Darling, you can have anything in the world that I have, but it breaks my heart that you’d ever 48 it.” Some 50 years later, this story of how her grandfather gave her the gift of 49 still brought tears to her eyes.
Few things have as large an influence on 50 the values of a child as the strong pain of lovingly administered shame (羞愧). It helps judge right from wrong and gives a 51 emotional (感情的) dimension to moral (道德的) and character issues.
Kids, and adults for that matter, learn from their 52 . Parents, teachers and coworkers can remind them of their moral responsibilities without shaming or 53 them.
What we can’t do is just let 54 go, unless we want to send the message that’s okay. What we allow, we 55 . And we should never encourage anything other than moral excellence.
A.changed B.affected C.formed D.built
A.occasion B.adventure C.accident D.incident
A.put B.brought C.dressed D.held
A.proud B.patient C.creative D.absurd
A.restaurant B.supermarket C.kitchen D.shop
A.looking B.passing C.following D.listening
A.fled B.returned C.arrived D.continued
A.hands B.coins C.cookies D.gloves
A.quickly B.politely C.cautiously D.suddenly
A.also B.so C.even D.though
A.disappointment B.surprise C.excitement D.pleasure
A.sent B.called C.took D.hugged
A.possess B.steal C.hide D.sell
A.confidence B.determination C.honesty D.courage
A.shaping B.judging C.destroying D.acquiring
A.different B.similar C.practical D.powerful
A.experiences B.mistakes C.adventures D.books
A.troubling B.endangering C.hurting D.cheating
A.misbehaviors B.faults C.burdens D.sufferings
A.encourage B.agree C.adjust D.refuse