Several years ago, my son and I had a brief conversation that has really stuck with me.
My Son: “ Were you there for the first of my game, Dad? I started!”
Me: “ I didn’t get back into town and to the game the second quarter... But you did great!”
My Son: “Oh.”
Me: “ But you really need to start better.”
My Son:(Silence)
So, what was wrong with I said? Well, he understood my flight was late and so I the first quarter. And my compliment(表扬) was good. But, the “but ” was the . Instead of just praising him for his accomplishment, I_him for his eating habits. And that criticism crushed(碾碎) the compliment.
, I realize that the words I had spoken weren’t the words my son heard. The moment I said, “ But you really need...” what my son heard was, “ What you did was good, but not quite good enough.”
So what did I take away from this ? First, I learned that accomplishments should be strong and . Saying “great job” or “good work” is a good when complimenting. But it’s even to say something like, “I’m proud that you the staring team. You preserved and worked really hard to get there.” Second, I learned that criticism should not be a compliment. Criticism can be so to the listener that he won’t even hear a compliment more than criticize. Mark Twain once said, “ I can live for two months a good compliment.” Giving your child a strong compliment can greatly and push him forward. Criticizing your child, although necessary at times, quickly take the wind out of his .
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| A．time |
B．quarter |
C．step |
D．attempt |
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| A．if |
B．until |
C．unless |
D．as |
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| A．eating |
B．studying |
C．working |
D．playing |
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| A．as |
B．which |
C．what |
D．that |
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| A．forgot |
B．lost |
C．caught |
D．missed |
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| A．question |
B．point |
C．challenge |
D．problem |
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| A．taught |
B．described |
C．criticized |
D．corrected |
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| A．Looking back |
B．Turning around |
C．Moving on |
D．Coming along |
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| A．main |
B．same |
C．brief |
D．detailed |
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| A．experiment |
B．expression |
C．experience |
D．adventure |
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| A．timely |
B．weak |
C．specific |
D．special |
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| A．practice |
B．sign |
C．way |
D．start |
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| A．well |
B．worse |
C．better |
D．good |
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| A．formed |
B．made |
C．found |
D．took |
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| A．separated from |
B．prevented from |
C．referred to |
D．mixed with |
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| A．loud |
B．weak |
C．high |
D．frightening |
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| A．inspire |
B．respect |
C．inspect |
D．require |
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| A．will |
B．can |
C．shall |
D．must |
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| A．sail |
B．room |
C．heart |
D．game |
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