Several years ago, my son and I had a brief conversation that has really stuck with me.
My Son: “ Were you there for the first of my game, Dad? I started!”
Me: “ I didn’t get back into town and to the game the second quarter... But you did great!”
My Son: “Oh.”
Me: “ But you really need to start better.”
My Son:(Silence)
So, what was wrong with I said? Well, he understood my flight was late and so I the first quarter. And my compliment(表扬) was good. But, the “but ” was the . Instead of just praising him for his accomplishment, I _him for his eating habits. And that criticism crushed(碾碎) the compliment.
, I realize that the words I had spoken weren’t the words my son heard. The moment I said, “ But you really need...” what my son heard was, “ What you did was good, but not quite good enough.”
So what did I take away from this ? First, I learned that accomplishments should be strong and . Saying “great job” or “good work” is a good when complimenting. But it’s even to say something like, “I’m proud that you the staring team. You preserved and worked really hard to get there.” Second, I learned that criticism should not be a compliment. Criticism can be so to the listener that he won’t even hear a compliment more than criticize. Mark Twain once said, “ I can live for two months a good compliment.” Giving your child a strong compliment can greatly and push him forward. Criticizing your child, although necessary at times, quickly take the wind out of his .
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The students at Sandy's high school were badly shaken by the news that a classmate had __36 himself．The suicide note read: “It’s hard to 37 when nobody cares.”
Glen, a teacher, realized this was a 38 moment about the importance of making people feel _39 ． He asked his class to imagine they were about to _40 and to write a note "telling someone how and why you _ 41 him or her."
Sandy, who had a 42_ relationship with her mother, decided to write her _43 . Her letter read: "We've had some 44_ times and I haven't always been a very good _ 45 , but I know I'm lucky to have you in my life． You're the _ 46_ person I've ever known．And even when I disagree with you, I never _ 47 _you love me and want what's best for me．Thanks for not 48 up me.”
When her mom read the note, she cried and hugged Sandy 49 but said little．
The next morning, Sandy found a 50 on her mirror: "Dearest Sandy, I want you to know being your mother is, by far, the most important thing in my life． 51_ I got your note , I thought I had lost your love and 52 . I felt like such a failure．I intended to 53 it all last night．Your note saved my 54 .”
Be careful not to underestimate(低估) the 55 of expressed appreciation. It won't always save a life, but it will always make someone's life better．
A．sacrificed B．defeated C．abandoned D．killed
A．live B．imagine C．struggle D．think
A．sad B．final C．teachable D．great
A．ashamed B．valued C．excited D．scared
A．die B．fail C．retire D．survive
A．miss B．hate C．admire D．appreciate
A．close B．casual C．bad D．personal
A．classmate B．mom C．father D．teacher
A．free B．delightful C．pleasant D．rough
A．daughter B．student C．friend D．trainer
A．best B．wisest C．luckiest D．bravest
A．trust B．doubt C．consider D．predict
A．taking B．going C．giving D．looking
A．coldly B．hesitantly C．shyly D．tightly
A．note B．gift C．notice D．reminder
A．Since B．Until C．Though D．When
A．confidence B．courage C．respect D．heart
A．end B．make C．get D．fall
A．life B．time C．money D．honor
A．push B．price C．meaning D．power
One day in Israel government officials were rebuilding a barn(谷仓). While working, they found a (n) 1 hole in a corner, so they used smoke to force the mice inside the hole to 2 . A while later they indeed saw mice running out, one after another.
Then, everyone thought that all the mice had 3 . But just as they were just about to start to clean up, they saw two mice squeezing out at the _4 of the hole. After some endeavor, the mice finally got out. But _5 , they did not run away immediately. Instead, one chased after the other near the exit of the hole. It seemed that one was trying to bite the _6 of the other. Everyone was puzzled, so they stepped_7_to take a look. They realized that one of the mice was 8 and could not see anything, and the other one was trying to allow the blind mouse to 9 _on his tail so he could pull the blind one with him to escape.
After witnessing what happened, everyone was 10 and lost in thought. During meal time, the group of people sat down and started to chat about what had happened to the two mice. One serious Rome official said, “I think the relationship between those two mice was that of emperor and 11 .” The others thought for a while and said, “That was why !”A smart Israeli said, “I think their relationship was husband and wife.” The others felt it made sense, so they 12 . A Korean, who was accustomed to the firm tradition of loyalty to _13_ , said, “I think the relationship between them was that of mother and son.” Once again the others felt this was more reasonable,
At that moment, one Samaritan who sat behind them resting his chin in his palms, 14 looked at other people, and asked, “Why did those two mice have to have a certain relationship?” Suddenly, the atmosphere froze. The group 15 at the Samaritan and remained silent. In fact, the true love is not established on benefit, friendship and loyalty or blood relationship. Instead, it is based on no relationship.
A．cat B．mouse C．dog D．ant
A．come in B．come down C．come out D．come over
A．died B．saved C．stayed D．escaped
A．exit B．wall C．floor D．door
A．strangely B．happily C．luckily D．sadly
A．tail B．head C．foot D．hand
A．longer B．higher C．closer D．farther
A．clear B．blind C．deaf D．mute
A．eat B．bite C．suck D．drink
A．joyless B．hopeless C．careless D．speechless
A．doctor B．servant C．empress D．minister
A．stopped B．argued C．agreed D．talked
A．couples B．parents C．teachers D．elders
A．puzzledly B．repeatedly C．pleasedly D．expectedly
A．looked in B．looked up C．looked back D．looked down
I watch her and her mother decorate her college dormitory room. Everything is in place organized and arranged. Her room nicely accommodates not only her clothes and bric-a-brac(小摆设), but her ___36___ as well. I begin to accept that her room at home is no longer hers. It is now ours, our room for her when she ___37___.
I ___38___ myself thinking of when I held her in the cradle of my arm, in the chair alongside my wife's hospital bed. One day old. So ___39___, so beautiful, so perfect, so ___40___ dependent on her new, ___41___ parents. Time marches relentlessly(不停地).
She looks up now, catching me ___42___ at her, causing her to say to her mother." Mom, Dad's looking at me ___43____”.
The last few days, I touch her arm, her face--- ___44___ that when my wife and I return home, she will not be ___45___ us. I have so much to say, but no ___46___ with which to say it.
My ___47___ changed from the day I drove this child home from the hospital. I saw myself ___48___ that day, and it has led to a lot of places that I would never have found on my own.
She says, “It'll be all right, Dad. I'll be home from school ___49___.” I tell her she will have a great year but I say little else. I am afraid somehow to speak and I only hold on to our good-bye hug a little longer, a little ___50___.
I gaze into her eyes and ___51___to go. My wife's eyes follow her as she leaves us. ___52___ do not. Maybe if I don't look, I can imagine that she really hasn't ___53___ ; I know that what she is embarking upon(开始) is exciting and wonderful. I remember what the world looked like to me ___54___ everything was new.
As I walk to the car with my wife at my side, my eyes are wet, my heart is sore, and I realize that my life is ___55___ forever.
A．sister's B．teachers' C．mother's D．roommates'
A．lives B．visits C．separates D．graduates
A．force B．leave C．find D．have
A．small B．big C．funny D．strong
A．severely B．totally C．slightly D．strictly
A．innocent B．casual C．qualified D．inexperienced
A．laughing B．staring C．glaring D．looking
A．expecting B．imaging C．knowing D．doubting
A．for B．with C．within D．along
A．sentence B．quotes C．saying D．words
A．day B．career C．life D．age
A．easily B．carefully C．differently D．seriously
A．quick B．soon C．fast D．rapidly
A．gentler B．softer C．tighter D．warmly
A．start B．turn C．run D．wonder
A．Hers B．My wife's C．Mine D．Ours
A．gone B．grown C．born D．found
A．although B．where C．when D．why
A．destroyed B．beginning C．ended D．changing
My friends and I had just finished lunch at a hotel when it started to pour 1 . When it became lighter, I decided to get my car, which was 2 at my office three streets away.
My friends argued that I shouldn’t go, mainly because I was seven months pregnant then. I assured them that I’d be very 3 .
I walked out of the 4 and started making my way to the car. At the traffic junction, a van stopped and the passenger got off with an umbrella. Before I knew what was happening, he walked right beside me and told me he’d escort(护送) me to my 5 . I was very embarrassed and declined(辞谢), but he was very 6 .
During our 7 , he kept telling me to walk slower, as the ground was 8 . When we got to the car park, I 9 him and we parted ways. I did not get his 10 and may not even recognise him now. Did he 11 stop for me? I’ll never know.
So how did I pay it forward? I was at home when I 12 two Indian construction workers walking in the heavy rain. They were probably on their way to the construction 13 near my estate, which was a long walk in. I went out and passed them an umbrella. I told them they should take the umbrella and 14 it. They were very grateful and like me, probably wondered why a 15 was offering such kindness.
A．hardly B．slightly C．heavily D．slowly
A．parked B．locked C．broken D．repaired
A．successful B．careful C．joyful D．stressful
A．storm B．garage C．office D．hotel
A．destination B．home C．office D．company
A．cautious B．diligent C．persistent D．reluctant
A．talk B．trip C．walk D．work
A．rough B．wet C．messy D．dirty
A．thanked B．left C．waved D．greeted
A．umbrella B．appearance C．address D．name
A．obviously B．accidently C．really D．purposely
A．watched B．noticed C．searched D．heard
A．equipment B．stage C．object D．site
A．keep B．carry C．have D．return
A．passer-by B．stranger C．man D．woman
Scott and his companions were terribly disappointed. When they got to the South Pole, they found the Norwegians（挪威人）had 31 them in the race to be the first ever to reach it. After 32 the British flag at the Pole, they took a photograph of themselves 33 they started the 950-mile journey back.
The journey was unexpectedly 34 and the joy and excitement about the Pole had gone out of them. The sun hardly 35 . The snow storms always made it impossible to sight the stones they had 36 to mark their way home. To make things 37 . Evans, whom they had all thought of 38 the strongest of the five, fell badly into a deep hole in the ice. Having 39 along for several days, he suddenly fell down and died.
The four who were 40 pushed on at the best speed they could 41 . Captain Oates had been suffering for some time from his 42 fact; at night his feet swelled（肿胀） so large that he could 43 put his boots on the next morning, and he walked bravely although he was in great 44 . He knew his slowness was making it less likely that 45 could save themselves. He asked them to leave him behind in his sleeping-bag, but they refused, and helped him 46 a few more miles, until it was time to put up the 47 for another night.
The following morning, 48 the other three were still in their sleeping-bags, he said. “I am just going outside and may be 49 some time.” He was never seen again. He had walked out 50 into the snow storm, hoping that his death would help his companions.
A．knocked B．fought C．won D．beaten
A．growing B．putting C．planting D．laying
A．after B．until C．while D．before
A．safe B．fast C．short D．slow
A．rose B．set C．appeared D．disappeared
A．taken up B．cut up C．set up D．picked up
A．easier B．better C．bitter D．worse
A．to B．upon C．as D．in
A．battled B．struggled C．speeded D．waited
A．left B．lost C．defeated D．saved
A．manage B．try C．employ D．find
A．ached B．frozen C．harden D．harmed
A．hardly B．never C．seldom D．nearly
A．pain B．fear C．trouble D．danger
A．all others B．some others C．others D．the others
A．away B．with C．off D．on
A．bed B．tent C．blanket D．sleeping-bag
A．while B．since C．for D．once
A．missed B．separated C．passed D．gone
A．patiently B．lonely C．alone D．worriedly
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