Our feelings influence almost every decision we make． Instead of living a boring life， positive （积极的） feelings can help us a lot． The pity is that sometimes become victims of feelings．
In one of my latest books， I compare people's ability to controls （控制） on a media player． Just like the controls can help you enjoy wonderful songs， these methods will be choices for you to manage feelings successfully．
1．Pause．
Take time to stop and think before you speak or act． Of course， you may feel sorry if you like doing something without thinking﹣like sending an angry email or posting something bad on social media． If you feel your feelings getting out of control， pause． If possible， go for a short walk． Once you've calmed down， decide how you want to move forward．
2．Volume control
Have you ever noticed that when speaking with someone， your style or tone is a mirror （镜子） of theperson's you are speaking to？ If you stay calm or quiet， they'll follow you． Shout or scream， and they'll do just like you． If a discussion starts to become worse， try to change it by softening your tone or lowering your voice．
3．Record
If you want to learn more about another person's thoughts， recording， one way of careful listening，may help． You don't need to reply at once； you're listening to understand． Through careful listening，you often see things you didn't see before and can even discover misunderstandings you didn't know．Don't judge or offer advice before you know more about others and the topic．
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Sometimes， our decisions are affected by our feelings． If you keep positive feelings， you can（1） living a boring life．Some methods can help you（2） in controlling your feelings． First， doing without thinking may make you （3） what you've said or done． It's wise of you to pause when your feelings become bad． Second， when speaking with someone， the other person usually offers you a reply in the （4） style or tone． So controlling volume is very important．What's more， recording is one way of careful listening， with the （5） of learning more about another person's thoughts． Follow this way， you can judge or offer suggestions．
As I entered an international high school all my friends felt surprised at my short hair．This is because， my old school thinks teenage y（1） aren't the time for looking pretty． Then I coloured my hair blue． For the first time， I felt free and beautiful． This international school s（2） to meet my needs．
I had a t（3） education background． I went to public schools， received normal （常规的）education and was required to follow r（4） like every other student． Later， I began to wonder
w（5） this education was truly suitable for me．
However， in the new school my high hopes were not met． For a while， I found myself in a surprising
situation as I faced before．It was s（6） the biggest challenge I faced in my education﹣the freedom to try new things．In the old system，I was strongly advised a（7） trying new things． But in my new school，it worked the opposite way﹣we had many chances to try new things．But if I f（8） ， I must be responsible （负责任的） because I put myself in such risk． Finally， it led me to get into trouble again．
As time went by， I started to find my o（9） balance．In fact，none of the education systems in the world are perfect． I am l （10） enough to have a chance to bring great value from both systems together． As a result， I've built a system for myself．
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