There is a scene in the movie The Descendants and it went something like this ---George Clooney’s character Matt King has a daughter who may be 9 or 10. She said something bad to a girl at her school that made her cry. The mother of that girl made Matt and his daughter come to their house to apologize. “Sorry,” said his daughter very casually. She was clearly not sorry for her actions and the girl’s mother complained she didn’t take her apology seriously. Matt shrugged(耸)his shoulders. What was he supposed to do? His daughter apologized as asked. He couldn’t make her mean her words.
I always think of this story when my daughter is asked by other adults to apologize for her wrong doings. I know my daughter is being taught to say “sorry” with all the best intentions. They are teaching her to be polite. But she is apologizing because she is being forced to please the adult or to avert punishment.
This situation has happened on a few occasions and it really bothers me. Here are three reasons why I don’t think it’s a good idea to teach children to say sorry: 1. My daughter is being taught to say things that are not from her heart. 2. She is being taught insincerity(不真诚) is valued over genuineness. 3. She is being taught she needs to please others to be loved.
These messages make me uncomfortable and I will not ask my children to apologize. Instead, this is what I think people should teach children:
teach them behavior that is acceptable and to practice positive behavior.
teach them how their actions affect others.
give them space to think about the situation and ask them to suggest ways to make the situation better.
help them make healthy choices
lead by example and show them how to fix wrong doings
The story in Paragraph 1 mainly shows that ________.
A.sometimes people don’t take their apology seriously |
B.The Descendants is a good film that is worth seeing |
C.forcing a child to apologize may not get expected results |
D.parents should punish their children for their mistakes |
What does the underlined word “avert” in Paragraph 2 mean?
A.Suffer | B.Avoid | C.Deserve | D.Get |
From Paragraph 3 we can learn that the author ________.
A.doesn’t like apologizing to other people. |
B.doesn’t think apologizing is important to children |
C.doesn’t think her daughter has done anything wrong |
D.thinks forcing a child to apologize has disadvantages |
According to the last paragraph, the author suggests people should ________.
A.teach children how to become independent |
B.teach children how to apologize in the correct way |
C.teach children to behave well instead of forcing them |
D.teach children how to set a good example to others |