Hating someone hurts one’s own health since it causes anger within, and this anger can harm one’s health if it builds too high. Health is wealth, and forgiveness (原谅) is the way to go. Forgiving someone will help to make you feel better and solve the problems about relationships. The following steps may help you:
Recognize the way. Many a time, we don’t know why we hate someone and continue to walk on a road that troubles one’s mental and physical health and happiness. We should be able to recognize the way first that you treat him / her when we come across a certain human being. Once we are able to recognize the way, we can then move on to the next step.
Find the cause. We should try to search within ourselves about what and how that person has hurt us, and why we hate them. Finding a cause helps us to bring closure within ourselves, and we can open up to discussion within ourselves, and even with the person whom we hate.
Face that person. Coming face-to-face with the person whom one hates is a challenge, but facing him / her will lead to peace of mind and a sound sleep at night. Brave up and face that person.
Start a conversation. Once in the presence of the person who is hated, start a conversation and communicate about what bothers you. Being frank about what and how that person’s behavior makes oneself angry will help both discuss problems, and will finally lead to clarification.
Say sorry to him/ her. Apologizing to the disliked person can do wonders for one’s physical and mental being, bringing happiness and satisfaction. Keeping one’s egos (自负) aside and expressing regret are the keys to forgiveness.
Once you forgive a person, be patient and kind to yourself. Express your pain and worries, and do not keep it bottled up. Thanks for the goodness of people around you, and imagine a new life with energy each day. This will help to shape each day free of pain.
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