Kids worry about things like grades, tests, their changing bodies, getting along with friends, the goal they missed at the soccer game, or whether they’ll make the team. They may worry about social troubles like cliques (朋党), peer pressure, or whether they’ll be bullied (威吓), teased, or left out.
There are some tips to help your kids handle what’s worrying them as follows.
Find out what’s on their minds. Be available and take an interest in what’s happening at school, on the team, and with your kids’ friends. Take casual opportunities to ask how it’s going. As you listen to stories of a day’s events, be sure to ask about what your kids think and feel about what happened. If your children seem to be worried about something, ask them about it.
Show your care and understanding. Being interested in your children’s concerns shows they’re important to you. It helps your kids feel supported and understood. Reassuring comments can help — but usually only after you’ve heard your children out. Say that you understand their feelings and the problems.
Guide kids to solutions. When your children tell you about a problem, offer to help them. For example, if your son is worried about an upcoming math test, offering to help him study will reduce his concern about it. In most situations, don’t simply jump in and fix the problem for your children. Instead, think it through and come up with possible solutions together. Solve problems with your kids, rather than for them. By taking an active role, kids learn how to handle a problem independently.
Be a good role model. Your response to your own worries can go a long way toward teaching your kids how to deal with everyday challenges. If you’re at a loss or angry when dealing with a to-do list that’s too long, your kids will learn that as the proper response to stress.
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Tips for removing the worries |
Find out what’s on their minds. |
* Be * Find out your kids’ attitude and reaction to the happenings. |
Show your care and understanding. |
* Show * Tell them you understand their feelings and the problems. |
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Guide kids to solutions. |
* Offer help to your kids when they are in * Never solve the problem for them, but with them. * Help your kids develop a habit of solving problems in a(n) |
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Be a good role model. |
* Your response to your own worries can have a deep * Set them a good example by |