Just listen
I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our 36 , and especially if it’s given from the 37 . When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but 38 them. Just take them 39 . Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than 40 it.
One of my patients told me that when she 41 to tell her story, people often 42 to tell her that they had once had something just like what happened to her. Subtly, her pain became a story about themselves. 43 she stopped talking to most people. It was just too 44 . We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the 45 of attention to ourselves. But when we listen, they know we care.
I have ever learned to 46 to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues(纸巾) 47 I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them 48 , to take them out of their 49 of sadness and pain. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there 50 them.
This 51 thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been 52 since I was very young at school. I thought people listened only because they were too 53 to speak or did not know the answer. A loving silence often has far more 54 to connect than the most well-intentioned(善意的) 55 .
A．introduction B．instruction C．attention D．relaxation
A．head B．memory C．mind D．heart
A．talk to B．listen to C．object to(反对) D．stick to(坚持)
A．in B．up C．off D．away
A．denying(否认) B．remembering C．questioning D．understanding
A．managed B．tried C．hoped D．expected
A．encouraged B．interrupted C．discouraged D．urged
A．Eventually B．Immediately C．Completely D．Especially
A．impolite B．meaningless C．lonely D．selfish
A．middle B．focus C．center D．choice
A．respond B．compare C．link D．regret
A．unless B．if C．until D．when
A．down B．away C．in D．off
A．experiment B．mixture C．judgment D．experience
A．with B．against C．for D．among
A．complex(费解的) B．simple C．single D．complicated(复杂的)
A．mentioned B．published C．taught D．proved
A．shy B．greedy C．active D．proud
A．strength B．energy C．power D．force
A．gestures B．praise C．criticism D．words
A group of graduates got together to visit their old university professor.
The conversation soon turned into complaints about 36 in work and life. To offer his guests coffee, the 37 went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and a variety of 38 — porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some 39 , some expensive, some delicate — telling them to help themselves to the 40 .
When all the students 41 a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said, "If you have 42 , all the nice-looking expensive cups have been taken up, 43 the plain and cheap ones. While it is 44 for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the 45 of your problems and stress. "
"Be assured that the cup itself adds no 46 to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even 47 what we drink. "
"What all of you really want is coffee, 48 the cup, but you 49 went for the best cups … And then you began 50 each other's cups. "
"Now consider 51 : Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain 52 , and the type of cup we have does not determine, nor 53 the quality of life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we 54 to enjoy the coffee. Fully appreciate the coffee, not the cups! Don't let the cups 55 you ... enjoy the coffee instead.
A．stress B．progress C．condition D．pride
A．advisor B．professor C．monitor D．graduate
A．glasses B．bowls C．trays D．cups
A．plain-looking B．beautiful C．modern D．nice-looking
A．pot B．sugar C．milk D．coffee
A．made B．had C．cooked D．served
A．talked B．discussed C．noticed D．decided
A．leaving behind B．falling about C．leaving about D．falling behind
A．strange B．wonderful C．normal D．important
A．source B．purpose C．doubt D．result
A．price B．quality C．sweet D．color
A．proves B．tastes C．hides D．steals
A．more than B．less than C．other than D．rather than
A．consciously B．wisely C．shyly D．carelessly
A．showing B．eyeing C．exchanging D．praising
A．it B．that C．this D．one
A．jobs B．money C．position D．life
A．change B．increase C．discover D．lower
A．try B．manage C．fail D．plan
A．envy B．drive C．support D．assess
A few years ago, when I was about 14,I went out for a walk 31 a rainy summer day. I saw a man 32 small, dirty colthes. He had 33umbrella, and he was picking bottles out of bushes. When he found 34 ,he smiled and put it in his big bag. I thought,“I wish there 35 some way to help him. Well, I could give him my umbrella.” Then I walked to him 36 gave the umbrella to him.“You need this more than I 37 .” The man took it with 38 big smile on his face and said,“Thank you! Thank you!” And then I walked away 39 good, I turned around and saw him 40a lot more, even though he was still picking bottles from bushes. “It was just an umbrella.” I thought, not 41 that it was the kindness 42 made him happy.
A few weeks later I was walking on a sunny day, and 43 the same man with the same clothes, 44 the same big bag 45 of bottles. The only 46 was that my umbrella was right in the corner, looking47 he cherished（爱护） it. It was so clean.
It didn’t 48 that I couldn’t give the man a house and a job and I only did I was able to do. But 50made someone else happier, so that was enough.
A．in B．on C．at D．during
A．wear B．dress C．with D．in
A．no B．not any C．not a D．none
A．it B．one C．some D．anything
A．was B．are C．is D．were
A．and B．but C．so D．such
A．do B．need C．am D．were
A．the B．a C．/ D．some
A．feel B．felt C．feeling D．to feel
A．crying B．laughing C．shouting D．smiling
A．wanting B．thinking C．realizing D．considering
A．that B．which C．what D．how
A．passing by B．passed by C．went by D．going by
A．as well B．but C．and D．rather than
A．fill B．filled C．full D．filling
A．difference B．same C．change D．vary
A．even if B．as to C．as for D．as if
A．matter B．count C．event D．affair
A．which B．what C．that D．whether
A．one B．this C．that D．they
The Price of a Dream
I grew up poor, living with my wonderful mother. We had little money but plenty of love and attention. I was 36 and energetic. I understood that no matter how poor a person was, he could still 37 a dream.
My dream was to be a sportsman. 38 I was sixteen, I had started playing baseball. I could throw a ninety-mile-per-hour fastball and hit anything that moved on the football field. I was also 39 . My high-school coach was Ollie Jarvis, who not only believed in me, but taught me 40 to believe in myself. He 41 me the difference between having a dream and realizing the dream. One particular 42 with Coach Jarvis changed my life forever.
It was the summer between my junior and senior years, and a friend recommended (推荐) me for a summer job. This meant a chance for money in my pocket—money for a new bike and new clothes, and the 43 of savings for a house for my mother. Then I realized I would have to 44 summer baseball to deal with the work schedule, and that meant I would have to tell Coach Jarvis I wouldn’t be playing.
When I told Coach Jarvis, he was as 45 as I expected him to be. “You have your whole life to work,” he said. “Your playing days are limited. You can’t 46 to waste them.” I stood before him with my head hanging, trying to think of the 47 that would explain 48 him why my dream of buying my mom a house and having money in my pocket was worth facing his 49 in me.
“How much are you going to make at this job, son?” he asked. “Three twenty-five an hour,” I replied.
“Well,” he asked, “is $3.25 an hour the 50 of a dream?”
That simple question made it 51 to me the difference between 52 something right now and following a dream. I 53 myself to sports that summer, and within the year I was 54 by the Pittsburgh Pirates to play baseball, and was 55 a $20,000 contract. In 2000, I bought my mother the house of my dream!
A．happy B．polite C．shy D．honest
A．lose B．have C．make D．need
A．By the time B．The time C．At one time D．At a time
A．right B．popular C．lucky D．confident
A．how B．why C．when D．whether
A．gave B．taught C．brought D．asked
A．accident B．matter C．problem D．experience
A．aim B．idea C．start D．purpose
A．keep up B．put up C．give up D．pick up
A．mad B．happy C．frightened D．shameful
A．adopt B．afford C．affect D．effect
A．answers B．excuses C．words D．ways
A．for B．to C．on D．in
A．sadness B．regret C．hopelessness D．disappointment
A．source B．prize C．price D．allowance
A．direct B．clear C．clean D．straight
A．wanting B．changing C．dreaming D．choosing
A．provided B．devoted C．headed D．imagined
A．worked B．mentioned C．fired D．hired
A．paid B．got C．offered D．signed
In 1957, Jane Goodall first met the famous anthropologist (人类学者) Dr Louis Leakey, who later played an important role in her life. With the 32 of gaining insight into humans’ evolutionary (进化的) past, Dr Leakey 33 a pioneering long-term field study on 34 chimps. Even though Jane had no formal 35 , her patience and determination to understand animals 36 him to choose her for the study. 37 it was unusual for a woman to work in the forest of Africa, going there 38 the fulfillment (实现) of her childhood dream. In the summer of 1960 she 39 in Tanzania(坦桑尼亚) on Lake Tanganyika’s eastern shore. This marked the 40 of the longest continuous field study of animals in their 41 habitat(栖息地). Five years 42 , she earned a doctor’s degree at Cambridge University and then 43 to Tanzania to found the Gombe Stream Research Center. And in 1977, to provide on-going 44 for chimp research, Dr Goodall 45 The Jane Goodall Institute.
Today, she 46 most of her time traveling around the world, giving lectures on her 47 at Gombe and speaking to school groups about Roots &Shoots, her environmental education and humanitarian program for the 48 .
“Chimps have given me so 49 . The long hours spent with them in the 50 have enriched my life beyond measure. What I have learned from them has shaped my 51 of human behavior, of our place in nature.”
A．way B．idea C．knowledge D．method
A．suggested B．achieved C．argued D．changed
A．modest B．special C．rude D．wild
A．exercise B．training C．living D．practice
A．devoted B．let C．made D．led
A．If B．Because C．Although D．Once
A．meant B．stopped C．intended D．inspired
A．arrived B．left C．reached D．went
A．end B．beginning C．happening D．achievement
A．new B．old C．man-made D．natural
A．later B．before C．ago D．behind
A．connected B．referred C．returned D．turned
A．environment B．evidence C．time D．support
A．created B．built C．founded D．set
A．costs B．spends C．pays D．devotes
A．bravery B．presence C．experiences D．appearance
A．animals B．youth C．human D．adults
A．little B．many C．much D．few
A．field B．university C．institute D．forest
A．imagination B．desire C．understanding D．protection
There was once a famous king whose name was Tamerlane. Like Alexander the Great, he 36 to become the master of the whole world. So he raised a great 37 and made war on other countries. He conquered(征服，打败） many kings and 38 many cities. But at last his army was beaten; and Tamerlane escaped alone from the field of 39 .
For a long time he wandered in 40 from place to place. His enemies were 41 him. He was about to lose all hope.
One day he was 42 under a tree, thinking of his failure. He had now been a wanderer for twenty days. He couldn’t 43 any longer. Suddenly he saw a small object climbing up the trunk (树干) of the tree. He looked more 44 and saw it was an ant, 45 a grain of wheat（麦粒） as large as itself.
There was a 46 in the tree only a little way above, and that was the home of the ant.
“You are 47 , Mr. Ant,” he said, “but you are carrying something that is too heavy for you.” Just as he 48 , the ant lost its footing and fell to the ground. But it 49 held on to the grain of wheat. Tamerlane 50 the little insect. It tried the second time, the third time ... the twentieth time — but always with the same 51 . Then it tried the twenty-first time. 52 , one little step at a time, it climbed across the rough place where it had 53 so often. The next minute it climbed 54 into its home, carrying the grain of wheat. “Well done!” said Tamerlane, “you’ve taught me a lesson. I, too, will try, try again, 55 I succeed.”
And this he did.
A．failed B．learned C．chose D．wished
A．party B．family C．army D．group
A．burned B．defended C．rebuilt D．developed
A．business B．battle C．sports D．wheat
A．peace B．relief C．puzzlement D．fear
A．fighting against B．looking for C．caring about D．calling on
A．lying B．singing C．sleeping D．practicing
A．grow up B．get around C．carry on D．stay up
A．quickly B．excitedly C．seriously D．closely
A．eating B．carrying C．discovering D．picking
A．hole B．cave C．leaf D．flower
A．hungry B．small C．brave D．smart
A．discussed B．explained C．complained D．spoke
A．only B．still C．also D．even
A．watched B．touched C．helped D．guided
A．goal B．method C．result D．reason
A．Hurriedly B．Gently C．Slowly D．Sadly
A．stopped B．appeared C．prepared D．fallen
A．worriedly B．safely C．freely D．calmly
A．till B．after C．if D．because
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