Remind children that bad things don’t last. It may sound simple, but the message is extremely important. “Children often don’t have the experience to know that when something bad happens---they lose an important game or their best friend lets them down---it’s not the end of the world,” explains Nancy Leffert, a senior research scientist with the Research Institute, an American adolescents(青少年) and children’s research group. “They think their bad feelings will last for ever, or that one failure will ruin everything.”
Unfortunately, that kind of thinking discourages motivation(动机). “If a child believes that the cause of her upset is lasting, or that nothing she does will make a difference, it decreases her ability to keep on trying.” says Dorothy Rich, president of the MegaSkills Education Center of the Home and School Institute, based in Washington. Any time you can help your child see that a situation is not lasting, that a result can be changed, or that one opinion does not reflect reality, you give her reason to hope.
Case in point: “When my daughter Kathy was eight, art was one of her favorite subjects,” says Beth, a mother of two. “Then she got an art teacher who gave a great deal of praise to one student and barely noticed the rest. Kathy was ready to give up until I explained to her, “Never stop doing your best just because one person doesn’t give you praise.” Beth had to repeat the advice often, and finally her daughter got the message. “Kathy is 12 now, and art is still one of her strongest subjects.”
According to the passage we know many children__________.
A.know how to face a failure |
B.try their best to avoid a situation of failure |
C.don’t want to stay in bad feelings for ever |
D.tend to take a failure as the end of the world |
Which of the following is RIGHT about Nancy Leffert?
A.She is concerned about children’s attitudes towards failure. |
B.She is the president of the Education Center. |
C.She strongly believes that bad things won’t last long. |
D.She is the director of the Research Institute. |
Which of the following can a parent say to his children to show that one’s opinion does not reflect reality?
A.“If you call your friend and apologize, he won’t stay mad at you.” |
B.“Go ahead. Don’t care what other people think.” |
C.“You have lost today, but you can try again tomorrow.” |
D.“That may be what your teacher thinks, but I see it differently.” |
The best title of the passage is__________.
A.Help Children Promote Problem Solving Ability |
B.Tell Children Not to Let Failure Ruin Them |
C.Set Reasonable Hopes for Your Children |
D.Teach Your Children to Be Happy |