Remind children that bad things don’t last. It may sound simple, but the message is extremely important. “Children often don’t have the experience to know that when something bad happens—they lose an important game or their best friends lets them down—it’s not the end of the world,” explains Nancy Leffert, a senior research scientist with the Research Institute, an American adolescents’(青少年) and children’s research group. “They think their bad feelings will last for ever, or that one failure will ruin everything.”
Unfortunately, that kind of thinking discourages motivation(动机).“If a child believes that the cause of her upset is lasting, or that nothing she does will make a difference, it decreases her ability to keep on trying,” says Dorothy Rich, president of the Mega Skills Education Center of the Home and School Institute, based in Washington. Any time you can help your child see that a situation is not lasting, that a result can be changed, or that one opinion does not reflect reality, you give her reason to hope.
Case in point: “When my daughter Kathy was eight,art was one of her favorite subjects,”says Beth,a mother of two. “Then she got an art teacher who gave a great deal of praise to one student and barely noticed the rest.Kathy was ready to give up until I explained to her,‘Never stop doing your best just because one person doesn’t give you praise.’” Beth had to repeat the advice often,and finally her daughter got the message.“Kathy is twelve now, and art is still one of her strongest subjects.”
62. According to the passage we know many children_____.
A. know how to face a failure
B. try their best to avoid a situation of failure
C. don’t want to stay in bad feelings for ever
D. tend to take a failure as the end of the world
63. Which of the following can a parent say to his children to show that one’s opinion does not reflect reality?
A. “If you call your friend and apologize,he won’t stay mad at you.”
B. “That may be what your teacher thinks, but I see it differently.”
C. “You have lost today, but you can try again tomorrow.”
D. “Go ahead. Don’t care what other people think.”
64. It can be inferred from the passage that_____.
A. teachers’ praise is very important to students
B. good teachers can give students useful advice
C. teachers should not praise their students in class
D. good teachers can find each student’s favorite subject
65. The best title of the passage is_____.
A. Help Children Promote Problem Solving Ability
B. Tell Children Not to Let Failure Ruin Them
C. Set Reasonable Hopes for Your Children
D. Teach Your Children to Be Happy