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For a long time being happy was considered something that just happened, and there was nothing special to do about it. Now we know that getting along with ourselves and with other people is something that we can work at. It is possible to act in such a way that other people will like us better. One way is being unselfish, not wanting everything our own way or demanding the best share of everything, including the attention of our friends. Another way is to look for good points, not bad ones in other people, it is surprising how successful this treasure hunt can be.
You don't have to be spineless（懦弱）in order to be popular. In fact，you will be liked and respected if you are not afraid to stand up for your rights. But do it politely and pleasantly. Being friendly and polite to your own group, to older people, to strangers and especially to those who do not look important or do not interest you is one way to develop a good character.
You can not expect to be perfect, and so you must learn not to be too unhappy when you make a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes, and no one is to be blamed unless he refuses to learn from them. Many young people become discouraged when they recognize in themselves qualities that they do not like--selfishness, laziness and other unpleasant qualities. Just remember that we all have some of these faults and have to fight against them.
At the same time, it is important to remember that, while you are probably no worse than others, chances are you are not much better, either. The surest way to be happy is to think yourself above other people.
When something is wrong, it is good sense to try to make it right. Perhaps you don't like a teacher or a classmate. Try to see why, and look at yourself, too, to be sure that you are not doing something to make that person dislike you. In time, things may turn out all right if you just keep trying to be pleasant and polite. If things do not turn out all right, then you will simply have to learn to get along the best you can with the situation, without thinking too much about it. Worrying never helps in a situation you can't change.
41. One of the two ways the author suggested for us to get along well with others is______
A. to draw attention of our friend
B. to demand the best share of everything
C. to look for treasure in order to be successful
D. to pay more attention to other people's good points
42. According to the passage, if one wants to be popular one needs to
A. be polite and friendly          B. give up some fights
C. avoid arguing with other people  D. be ready to change his/her character
43. The passage shows that there is no perfect person but someone should be blamed if he______
A. makes a big mistake
B. is selfish and lazy
C. does not draw a lesson from his own fault
D. is very unhappy about his unpleasant quality
44. The passage implies that in order to be a happy person, one should consider oneself______
A. no better than others
B. not the same as others
C. as having something better than others
D. as having better chances than others
45. The purpose for the writer to write the passage is to ______
A. train you to be perfect
B. show you the way to be happy
C. tell you how to act when you dislike a person
D. teach you how to be popular among our friends